I love this 💕 it’s so freeing to let change have its way in a new situation and season! It also can be painful and confusing but it sounds like you’re getting to the good part. I appreciate your interpretation of Meghan’s show, I admit to bingeing on the negative coverage and agreeing with much of it (she just can’t win in a lot of people’s eyes, mine included) but it’s completely fair to let her have a Joanna era like we all truly want in our heart of hearts.
Yes, you're so right - I feel like I'm finally getting to the "good part" of embracing all the change and this new season. Our first few years of marriage were so full and busy and babies back to back and moving and changing jobs, and it feels like we're only now coming up for air to process it all, so I think that's been a big part of it too. But also, to everything there is a time!
I don't disagree with many of the criticisms of Meghan and her show - they make valid points, but I think both things can be true: like we can talk about the issues, but also like you said, let her have her Joanna era.
A couple thoughts from this. First, isn't it strange how people will complain when people lean into changing? I used to feel shame from the freedom I had in recovery and in Christ (in the beginning) but why?? Praise God I don't relate to certain people anymore. It's good that I don't fit their expectations if it draws me closer to Him and my family. We are called to be set apart. Second, I'm pondering how it took me a good YEAR to change my last name after I got married. It was definitely a matter of pride and hesitancy despite the covenant I had entered. I suppose that was another way my old life got in the way of me stepping fully into my new life <3
Daniel always tells me that the reason people don't like to see you grow and change is because they want to keep you at their level / they find it intimidating that you're growing and they're not - like it changes the dynamics of some friendships and relationships, and people don't like that. But yes, you're right, like praise God for growth and change that we aren't who we used to be - like shouldn't that be a positive thing!?
Changing my name was such an emotional struggle for me. I was excited about it because it meant I was marrying Daniel, but it felt like such a massive identity change and I think part of what scared me was I had no idea who I'd be / become with my "new" name and being part of a couple. I had dreams and hopes, sure, but Daniel and I were basically strangers and yes we seemed to have similar dreams at that time, but it still felt like stepping into the unknown and that was a lot to process.
I wonder if changing your last name was also a difficult decision as someone who was establishing an online presence as an author? I know that was a pull on my heart for me.
Yes! I finished editing Expectant right before I got married, but with moving and wedding planning, I didn’t get it published and live until after I got married and changed my name and it was so odd to publish a book under my married name that I had written as a single woman and everything that was in the book was what “Yelena Bosovik” lived and learned. I wrestled with what name to publish the book under for awhile! Same with like looking at my law school diploma and my law license.
This is so encouraging!!! ❤️
I love this 💕 it’s so freeing to let change have its way in a new situation and season! It also can be painful and confusing but it sounds like you’re getting to the good part. I appreciate your interpretation of Meghan’s show, I admit to bingeing on the negative coverage and agreeing with much of it (she just can’t win in a lot of people’s eyes, mine included) but it’s completely fair to let her have a Joanna era like we all truly want in our heart of hearts.
Yes, you're so right - I feel like I'm finally getting to the "good part" of embracing all the change and this new season. Our first few years of marriage were so full and busy and babies back to back and moving and changing jobs, and it feels like we're only now coming up for air to process it all, so I think that's been a big part of it too. But also, to everything there is a time!
I don't disagree with many of the criticisms of Meghan and her show - they make valid points, but I think both things can be true: like we can talk about the issues, but also like you said, let her have her Joanna era.
A couple thoughts from this. First, isn't it strange how people will complain when people lean into changing? I used to feel shame from the freedom I had in recovery and in Christ (in the beginning) but why?? Praise God I don't relate to certain people anymore. It's good that I don't fit their expectations if it draws me closer to Him and my family. We are called to be set apart. Second, I'm pondering how it took me a good YEAR to change my last name after I got married. It was definitely a matter of pride and hesitancy despite the covenant I had entered. I suppose that was another way my old life got in the way of me stepping fully into my new life <3
Daniel always tells me that the reason people don't like to see you grow and change is because they want to keep you at their level / they find it intimidating that you're growing and they're not - like it changes the dynamics of some friendships and relationships, and people don't like that. But yes, you're right, like praise God for growth and change that we aren't who we used to be - like shouldn't that be a positive thing!?
Changing my name was such an emotional struggle for me. I was excited about it because it meant I was marrying Daniel, but it felt like such a massive identity change and I think part of what scared me was I had no idea who I'd be / become with my "new" name and being part of a couple. I had dreams and hopes, sure, but Daniel and I were basically strangers and yes we seemed to have similar dreams at that time, but it still felt like stepping into the unknown and that was a lot to process.
I wonder if changing your last name was also a difficult decision as someone who was establishing an online presence as an author? I know that was a pull on my heart for me.
Yes! I finished editing Expectant right before I got married, but with moving and wedding planning, I didn’t get it published and live until after I got married and changed my name and it was so odd to publish a book under my married name that I had written as a single woman and everything that was in the book was what “Yelena Bosovik” lived and learned. I wrestled with what name to publish the book under for awhile! Same with like looking at my law school diploma and my law license.
Please get that photo framed! That is beautiful.